[{"data":1,"prerenderedAt":376},["ShallowReactive",2],{"bazi-article-en-bazi_shang_guan_jian_guan":3,"bazi-articles-list-en":244},{"id":4,"title":5,"author":6,"body":7,"category":227,"date":228,"description":229,"extension":230,"image":6,"imageAlt":6,"meta":231,"navigation":232,"order":233,"palaces":6,"path":234,"seo":235,"series":236,"sitemap":237,"star":6,"stem":238,"tags":239,"__hash__":243},"content\u002Fen\u002Fbazi\u002Farticles\u002Fbazi_shang_guan_jian_guan.md","BaZi Hurting Officer Sees Officer and Marriage",null,{"type":8,"value":9,"toc":210},"minimark",[10,14,17,20,23,28,31,34,39,42,45,48,52,55,58,61,65,68,71,75,78,81,84,88,91,94,97,110,114,117,120,123,126,130,133,136,139,142,156,160,166,169,174,177,182,185,190,193],[11,12,13],"p",{},"When students ask about marriage, eight sentences in ten will ask about Hurting Officer.",[11,15,16],{},"Hurting Officer seeing Officer sounds like a verdict. It is actually two forces colliding. Hurting Officer is talent, picking, dissent, wanting to live by your own standard. Officer is rules, title, duty; in a woman’s chart often also the husband. Hurting Officer going to see Officer is that “I have an opinion” meeting “the place you are supposed to keep.”",[11,18,19],{},"The most common contradiction in marriage is often not love or not love. It is whether the standards match. Hurting Officer seeing Officer is that matter.",[11,21,22],{},"Say this clearly first: Hurting Officer in the chart does not mean you cannot marry. People with strong Hurting Officer have a high eye, a fast mouth, high demands on quality. Before marriage that is charm. After marriage that is homework. Used well, it is talent. Used badly, it is endless scoring of a partner.",[24,25,27],"h2",{"id":26},"womens-charts-hurting-officer-before-and-after-marriage-is-not-the-same-face","Women’s charts: Hurting Officer before and after marriage is not the same face",[11,29,30],{},"A woman’s Hurting Officer is easiest to see before marriage. A person pursues freshness, the exact fit, “he should understand me.” Heat arrives fast; dissatisfaction also arrives fast. When the talk is passionate, everyone around thinks this will work. The moment they find the other person is not perfect enough, the heart cools by half.",[11,32,33],{},"This is not a woman being mean. Hurting Officer’s nature is “seeing where it could be better.” Without a title, she uses this force to choose people. With a title, this force is still there. Only the scoring object becomes the same person.",[35,36,38],"h3",{"id":37},"after-marriage-picking-moves-from-the-person-to-the-days","After marriage, picking moves from the person to the days",[11,40,41],{},"Once married life is even, Hurting Officer’s edge changes place. No longer only picking whether the other is romantic enough. It starts picking whether the days are good enough: how housework is split, how money is used, whether his attitude toward her is worse than before.",[11,43,44],{},"After a child is born, this group of force is more obvious. Body, sleep, confidence all get pulled down. A woman with strong Hurting Officer at this time easily reads “I have changed” as “has he also become less than before.” Figure, energy, mood unstable, she starts suspecting whether the partner’s heart has left.",[11,46,47],{},"Suspicion does not necessarily have evidence. But a woman with Hurting Officer seeing Officer has a very sharp inner ruler. Once the ruler is sharp, marriage easily goes from near to far: not an explosion, slowly not talking, not touching, not asking. Distance is harder to patch than a quarrel.",[35,49,51],{"id":50},"what-hurting-officer-seeing-officer-truly-needs-to-prevent-is-the-mouth-won-the-relationship-is-gone","What Hurting Officer seeing Officer truly needs to prevent is “the mouth won, the relationship is gone”",[11,53,54],{},"Hurting Officer controls Officer. In a woman’s chart, Officer star weak, then controlled by Hurting Officer: the husband line will be unstable. Ability disliked, title met, or he himself cannot stay.",[11,56,57],{},"In class I advise straight: you can have a standard, but use the standard on matters, not on the person. Matters can change. Once a person is denied, the relationship starts to withdraw. Hurting Officer’s strongest is not losing temper. It is speaking the sentence the other most does not want to hear, which happens to be true. The fact can wait until afterward. That sentence in the moment is often the crack in the marriage.",[11,59,60],{},"If Hurting Officer is Useful God, a woman’s talent is high, work has an outlet, marriage is actually easier to live—because that picking has somewhere to go. Hurting Officer with no outlet, all poured into the home, and the home will be noisy.",[24,62,64],{"id":63},"mens-charts-officerkillings-before-marriage-is-career-after-marriage-it-is-home","Men’s charts: Officer\u002FKillings before marriage is career; after marriage it is home",[11,66,67],{},"Reading marriage in a man’s chart cannot only read the Wealth star. Wealth is the wife, the person he wants to be close to. Officer\u002FKillings is pressure, duty, title, and also his ability to take the home as a real matter.",[11,69,70],{},"Before marriage, Officer\u002FKillings is mostly spent on career. Promotion, reviews, pressed by a superior, himself unwilling to submit: all Officer\u002FKillings. That stretch of experience shapes his view of marriage. People who have been pressed by Officer\u002FKillings: some want a partner who lets them breathe; some put “I must get ahead” above everything, and marriage is only one life task among others.",[35,72,74],{"id":73},"once-there-is-a-child-officerkillings-truly-moves-house","Once there is a child, Officer\u002FKillings truly moves house",[11,76,77],{},"Marriage is still only a title. Once a child is born, Officer\u002FKillings’ meaning turns from “duty outside” to “duty at home.” A man with a strong Day Master who can carry Officer\u002FKillings: career often actually rises then. He knows who he is feeding. Work has weight.",[11,79,80],{},"But attention is also pulled apart. He starts fearing the child will lose at the starting line, fearing the mortgage, fearing he is not good enough. Outside looks like looking after the family. Inside, Officer\u002FKillings has filled the heart. If the wife at this time needs to be seen, and he only sees duty, marriage will each live each.",[11,82,83],{},"Weak Day Master then seeing Officer\u002FKillings: a man is easily crushed. Career not smooth, going home also no surplus. Charts like this: advising career and advising marriage are the same matter. First lighten Officer on the body, then talk how to be a husband.",[24,85,87],{"id":86},"hurting-officer-seeing-officer-is-not-only-a-womans-topic","Hurting Officer seeing Officer is not only a woman’s topic",[11,89,90],{},"Men also have Hurting Officer. A man with Hurting Officer seeing Officer: at work, talent unwilling to be managed; in marriage, demands on the system and on the partner are both hard. He can look after the family very well, but the way of looking after is “the kind I think is correct.”",[11,92,93],{},"So Hurting Officer seeing Officer is not a woman-only term. Whoever has this group on them finds it harder to accept “there is a part of the relationship I cannot manage.” Marriage happens to be two people who cannot be fully managed living together.",[11,95,96],{},"Reading this group, I am used to asking three sentences:",[98,99,100,104,107],"ol",{},[101,102,103],"li",{},"Does Hurting Officer have an outlet? Work, making, study: an outlet, less injury to the home.",[101,105,106],{},"Is the Officer star strong? Officer weak then hurt: the title is unstable. Officer too strong: a person feels managed.",[101,108,109],{},"Is there Seal in the middle? Seal can transform Hurt and generate Officer: someone advising, a principle turning talent into duty. Elders at home mediating, or yourself willing to hear one sentence: this group is less fierce.",[24,111,113],{"id":112},"remarriage-do-not-use-the-first-marriage-set-of-reading","Remarriage: do not use the first-marriage set of reading",[11,115,116],{},"Whether man or woman, remarriage cannot only repeat old verdicts. A person already carries one marriage’s experience into the next game of chess. The balance of Wealth, Officer, Hurt, Food becomes more sensitive.",[11,118,119],{},"A man remarrying: read how Wealth and Officer\u002FKillings interact. Wealth is the other person. Officer\u002FKillings is whether he is willing to take duty again. Wealth with no Officer: wants to be close, does not want to carry. Officer with no Wealth: wants to be responsible but there is no one in the heart. Both need to be there, then remarriage is more like a home, not makeup class.",[11,121,122],{},"A woman remarrying: read Hurting Officer and Food God. Hurting Officer is picking and old injury. Food God is tolerance and nourishing. Hurting Officer too strong: the second time will still measure people with the same ruler. Food God able to come out: a person can actually live “this time I want to live a bit more comfortably.”",[11,124,125],{},"Before remarriage, I actually advise less “quickly find the next one.” People with Hurting Officer seeing Officer: if the gap is used to put that picking back onto their own work and life, the next stretch will be much cleaner. Old standards not dismantled, whoever you swap is a first-marriage rerun.",[24,127,129],{"id":128},"what-bazi-hurting-officer-seeing-officer-and-marriage-can-actually-do","What BaZi Hurting Officer seeing Officer and marriage can actually do",[11,131,132],{},"A woman with strong Hurting Officer, after marriage must have her own matter: a class, work, a craft, sport, anything. That “I can be better” cannot only fire at the husband.",[11,134,135],{},"A man with strong Officer\u002FKillings, going home first do one thing unrelated to performance. Wash dishes, ten minutes with the child, put the phone down. Officer\u002FKillings needs a place to put, but the home cannot be treated as a second company.",[11,137,138],{},"Both have Hurting Officer seeing Officer: when quarreling, set one dead rule. That day, do not speak breakup, do not turn old accounts past one item. Hurting Officer’s mouth is fast. Rules must come before talent.",[11,140,141],{},"BaZi is a mirror, not a verdict sheet. Hurting Officer seeing Officer tells you the easiest place to break in marriage is “standard” and “title.” Once you see it, you can change tone, change outlet, change expectation. If you cannot see it, you will treat a personality problem as a fate problem.",[11,143,144,145,150,151,155],{},"If the chart also has combination, for example Friend going to combine Officer, a third party in feelings or a title cut off, read separately ",[146,147,149],"a",{"href":148},"\u002Fen\u002Fbazi\u002Farticles\u002Fbazi_bi_jie_he_guan_sha","BaZi Friend Combines Officer: Workplace and Romance",". Money and your own people bound together: ",[146,152,154],{"href":153},"\u002Fen\u002Fbazi\u002Farticles\u002Fbazi_bi_jie_he_cai","BaZi Friend Combines or Controls Wealth: Loss vs Lending",".",[24,157,159],{"id":158},"bazi-hurting-officer-seeing-officer-and-marriage-faq","BaZi Hurting Officer seeing Officer and marriage FAQ",[11,161,162],{},[163,164,165],"strong",{},"If a woman has Hurting Officer, does she harm the husband?",[11,167,168],{},"Not seeing Hurting Officer and harming the husband. Ask Officer star strength, whether Seal is there to transform Hurt, whether Hurting Officer is Useful God. Hurting Officer with an outlet: many women have a very good career, and marriage can be lived. Hurting Officer with no outlet then seeing Officer: easier to meet the husband until it hurts.",[11,170,171],{},[163,172,173],{},"Can you marry in a year of Hurting Officer seeing Officer?",[11,175,176],{},"Ask what Officer that year is hurting. Hurting an Unfavorable Officer: actually loosening. Hurting a Useful Officer: the title is unstable, registering easily brings later regret. Marriage is a legal act. Do not say absolutely no only because annual luck has Hurting Officer, and do not ignore it completely.",[11,178,179],{},[163,180,181],{},"If a man has no Hurting Officer, is marriage therefore stable?",[11,183,184],{},"Not necessarily. A man’s marriage still reads Wealth, Officer\u002FKillings, and whether the spouse star is combined or controlled away by Friend\u002FRob Wealth. No Hurting Officer only means one crack is missing—“using a standard to meet the other person.” It does not mean there are no other cracks.",[11,186,187],{},[163,188,189],{},"Already in a marriage, discovering I am Hurting Officer seeing Officer: is it still in time?",[11,191,192],{},"In time. Destiny is structure. Reaction is habit. Habits can change: one sentence fewer, one more outlet, expectations spoken clear. BaZi helps you explain why it is always like this. 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